What if I told you that a lot of the things you’re feeling are not exactly what you think they are? In many cases, you’re jumping to conclusions in terms of identifying your own emotions. I know this sound crazy because after all everybody is feels emotions and their entitled to them right? Well you confusing two things. You’re confusing the fact that everybody is entitled to their own emotions. Nobody can argue this. Learn more about How important is honesty in dealing with your emotions in this article.
If you’re feeling certain things or you’re experiencing a rush of different emotions, you are entitled to that because you are equal like everybody else. Everybody’s looking at the same set of stimuli and everybody’s welcome to process that information and walk away with different emotions. That’s okay. That’s natural, that’s parts of the game.
Talking about game, this Book The Game of life and how to play it by Florence Scovel Shinn has changed my life. You can listen to it while you’re busy with chores.
What you’re not entitled to is to absorb yourself of the responsibility of dealing with you emotions. This is where a lot of people fail. I really can’t blame them because 9 times out of 10 when confronted with any kind of toxic emotions, people would rather do things the exact same way they’ve done things before.
You become mentally lazy
You’ve grown accustomed to intercepting certain signals a certain way. You become mentally lazy. Sure in the beginning you chose one interpretation over another, but the more you repeat it the more it becomes engraved until you reach a point where you feel that this is just part of your personality.
You might even think that this is just the natural objective interpretation of the things you are seeing and feeling. Absolutely wrong. This is not objective, it’s always subjective. You can always choose a different interpretation.
This is where honesty comes in
This is where honesty comes in. Are you looking at the big picture? Are you coming up with a logical and rational reading of the stimuli that you are perceiving or are you just going through the motions, are you letting your emotions get the better of you because you’re just lazy?
You’ve been reacting this way for a long time and you really don’t want to put in the time, effort and energy to make a change, that’s a choice. Nobody’s pointing a gun at your head and forcing you to respond in the worst way possible.
Emotionally, nobody found that, you’re not being forced to do this but you do it again and again. Kind of like a rat pushing a lever to get a little treat during a scientific experiment. You can choose to respond to your emotions in a vastly different way by simply choosing to be honest.
Are you looking at the whole picture?
First of all, you need to be honest about the whole stimuli that your’re perceiving… Are you looking at the whole picture?
Second, you have to look at how you’re interpreting it. Are there no other logical interpretations that can be supported by same set of facts? If there are, why are you not using those interpretation?
Make this process work for you and it all turns on how honest you are with yourself.
Learn how the power of honesty can give you emotional freedom and free you from the range of toxic emotions that hold you back and drag you down from the kind of success that you otherwise deserve.
Life is beautiful.
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